Most pregnant women avoid long road trips right before their due date. But Amanda and Kay Shelton, a lesbian couple in Beverly Hills, Mich., contemplated traveling more than 600 miles to New Jersey so Amanda could give birth in a state where their baby could have two "legal" mothers.

Michigan, along with several others, doesn't allow same-sex couples to perform second-parent adoptions, which allow one partner to adopt the other's biological or adopted children. They never did make the long trip, which would have allowed Kay to begin adoption proceedings immediately. "It was not terribly practical, so we were kind of in a difficult spot," said Amanda, 34.

The inability to adopt is one of many legal and financial inequalities the Sheltons face because their state and the federal government do not recognize their union, which they affirmed in a ceremony almost 11 years ago.